In recent years, much has been written and said about the current generation of young adults and your inflated sense of entitlement. You feel that the world should be handed to you on a silver platter and that your every desire should be accommodated and honored. You deserve every prize that life has to offer. And you’ve been told
repeatedly that this entitlement mentality is a bad thing. I disagree.
I think a sense of entitlement can be a great gift and a vehicle for creating a phenomenal life; IF you know how to use it. I believe that you do, in fact, deserve every prize that life has to offer, and that the world is yours to experience and enjoy. So, why are so many young adults with a solid sense of entitlement finding themselves experiencing a life in
great contrast to their dreams. There must be more to the equation.
Here’s how the conscious creation of reality works. I have a dream (the conscious kind, not the sleeping kind), and I become aware that I want to experience something, have
something, or feel something. Because I am now aware of what it is I want to experience, have or feel, I make decisions in my life that reflect that desire and move me in the direction of my dreams. I have a core belief that I can have or create whatever my heart desires, and I am worthy of (entitled to) that achievement. And I am worthy of the
experiences and lessons that are presented along the road to that goal. (It’s important to note that this is the conscious version of the story. The unconscious creation is simply decision, surprise outcome, reaction. The outcomes of the decision still create the life experience, but there is little awareness of how the decisions are made or where they will lead, and the role of entitlement becomes nearly irrelevant.)
If entitlement is one part of the conscious creation process, and that piece is already in place, maybe one or more of the following roadblocks are getting in your way.
Dream Confusion: First, your dreams need to be clear and personal. Saying that you want to be rich is simply not enough. You’ve gotta do better than that. Who is it that you want to be in this life? It’s tough to actively move toward a goal if you don’t know what the goal is.
Decision Malfunction: You may feel that you’d like to experience success, yet you make decisions on a day-to-day basis that do not reflect that desire. If your dream is to be
successful (whatever that might mean to you; see point above), are the decisions you make in alignment with that goal? If not, the path you’re walking is going to lead you somewhere else. And your arrival will probably surprise you.
Selfishness Slip: Creating the life of your dreams should not inhibit others from doing
the same. If your action plan or attitude indicates that others will lose if you win, you need a new plan. Effective entitlement recognizes that my success does not come at your expense.
Self-Love Sabotage: A feeling of deserving is often more difficult to achieve than a feeling
of wanting. You might want to experience the joy and energy of life, but if there is a part of you that doesn’t feel you are deserving of that experience, your decisions will lead you
away from it every time. You need to love yourself so much that the decisions you make reflect that love and allow for the results you desire.
My advice to the entitled generation?
- Get clear. Figure out what it is that you want to experience in your life.
- Get thankful. Have gratitude for the opportunities that you have access to and the lessons that you’ve been learning and will learn on the journey.
- Get focused. Pay attention to the decisions you are making and the possible outcomes of those decisions. Your life is a collection of the outcomes of the decisions you make.
- Get real. You will need to move in the direction of your dreams if you wish to
achieve them. Use entitlement to know that you deserve the best in life, but use action to get there.
- Get happy now. It may take some time to reach your destination. Find a way to enjoy the ride without derailing the train.
Post originally written 2/2010 by Jill Baake.