At any given moment, each of us could create a list of the things that are going well in our lives and a list of the things that are going not so well. I believe this is true for every person, regardless of what his or her life looks like from the outside looking in. We all have both the good and the less desirable. The ability to choose our perspective, coupled with the knowledge that “what we focus on expands,” create a powerful tool for understanding and creating our experiences.
What does “what we focus on expands” mean? It means that wherever we invest our thoughts and energy, that area will grow. Like attracts like. What you give is what you receive.
Think of it this way. We all have two gardens. One is filled with beautiful fruits, veggies, and flowers. The other is filled with weeds. We have a finite amount of water and sunlight to nurture our gardens on a daily basis. If we focus the distribution of water on the fruits and veggies, they will thrive and bloom. Likewise, if we water and energize the weed garden, it will flourish and grow.
It’s like the bad day scenario. You get out bed and stub your toe. Then you are last in line for the shower at your house, so there’s no hot water left. On the way to work, you hit every red light. By lunchtime, you’ve got a pretty good story brewing, so you actively start watching for more bad stuff. Your co-worker burns his popcorn in the microwave, your computer eats the document that you spent all morning working on, and the lady that sits next to you is extra grumpy and using you as a target.
What we focus on expands. While we’re watering the weeds and watching them grow, we
continue to create more weed growth.
… to be continued…
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